Today, as we celebrate International Women’s Day, I want to ask you a question. Are you a Good Daughter or a Good Woman?
Many of us were raised to be good daughters – obedient, respectful, never questioning, always putting others first. We were taught to sacrifice, endure, and never “talk back”, because a “good woman” is supposed to be humble and accommodating.
I want to challenge you to move from being a good daughter to being a GOOD WOMAN. What is the difference between the two?
Good daughter vs Good woman:
💡 A good daughter serves others. A good woman prioritizes herself.
💡 A good daughter shrinks herself to be loved. A good woman takes up space and owns her worth.
💡 A good daughter says yes to everything. A good woman sets boundaries without guilt.
💡 A good daughter works twice as hard for recognition. A good woman walks with confidence, knowing she deserves to be in the room.
My sisters, we are in the UK navigating careers, businesses, and leadership in a system that doesn’t always see us. If we keep waiting for permission, we will be overlooked. If we keep carrying everyone else’s load before our own, we will burn out.
It is time to unlearn the belief that our worth comes from how much we give, endure, or suffer.
Step into your power. Take care of yourself first. Speak up. Say no when necessary. Ask for what you deserve. Show up as your full self.
We didn’t leave Nigeria just to struggle in silence here in the UK. We came to thrive, to be seen, to be heard, and to take up space.
✨ Happy International Women’s Day! ✨
Written by Ruth Temitope Ajayi
