Self-preservation isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving. It’s about making choices that protect your well-being, your peace, and your future. Too often, when we make one bad decision, we let it spiral into a series of worse ones, as if we are powerless to stop the momentum. But we do have power. We have the ability to stop, regroup, and replan.
Planning: Your Greatest Weapon
Life requires a strategy. If you’re just reacting to things as they happen, you’ll always be at the mercy of circumstances. Instead, you need to be intentional. Have meetings with yourself regularly. Sit down and ask:
•Where am I now?
•What’s working? What’s not?
•What needs to change?
•What’s my next step?
Planning helps you move forward with clarity rather than getting lost in emotions or pressure from others.
Accountability: Owning Your Life
One of the hardest but most freeing truths is this: You are responsible for your life. Even when other people do wrong by you, you are still responsible for how you respond. Blame keeps you stuck. Accountability moves you forward.
When you make a bad decision, don’t double down and make more. Instead, stop and acknowledge it: “I made a mistake. Now, what can I do to fix it?” Growth comes from facing reality head-on, not avoiding it.
Recognizing Abusive People: They Won’t Change
This is a painful truth many people struggle to accept. If someone is abusive—physically, emotionally, verbally, financially—they will not change because of you. Love won’t change them. A baby won’t change them. Your suffering won’t change them.
What will happen is that, over time, you will lose more of yourself waiting for them to be different. Instead of trying to make them change, stay still for a moment. Observe. Watch. See them for who they actually are, not who you hope they will become.
Then, ask yourself: What is the best decision I can make for myself and my future?
Make Every Decision With Intention
Every stage of your life requires decision-making. Sometimes, we rush into choices because we feel desperate. We think, “Maybe this will fix everything.” But the best decisions come from a place of peace and clarity, not panic.
Instead of running blindly into the next thing, sit with yourself. Think critically. Be logical. Emotions are valid, but they should not be the sole driver of your choices. Learn to balance your heart and your mind.
Love Yourself Enough to Choose Wisely
This is not about blaming yourself. It’s about loving yourself enough to do better when you know better. It’s about standing up for your own future, even when it’s hard.
Give yourself permission to stop the cycle. You deserve peace. You deserve safety. You deserve a future that isn’t built on damage control but on real, solid, intentional choices.
And that starts with you.
